Every time my husband does something that makes my eyes roll, he says, “You bought your ticket…you knew what you were getting!”
If you know us, you are laughing right now. It’s so us.
Yes. I did buy my ticket. But despite what he says, I wasn’t exactly sure what I was getting 15 years ago when I said “I do!” No one is absolutely certain what the future holds when they get married. It is the great unknown. You make the leap together, but it is truly a leap of faith.
I had some ideas about the future. I suspected we would laugh a lot (we do), we would still love each other in 15 years (we do), we would probably be living in New Jersey (we are), and that I would probably roll my eyes…a lot (I do).
But there was so much I didn’t know.
I didn’t know how utterly supportive my husband would be of anything my heart was set on. Whether it was a huge work project or running a half marathon, my husband has never doubted my ability to succeed. Even when I didn’t think I could persevere, he believed.
I didn’t know that he would be such a rock in moments of incredible grief. He has steadied my body as it shook with sadness and tears more times than I would like to think about. We have been through multiple miscarriages and the loss of two great women in my life – my aunt and my mom. He has held me, sat quietly by my side, and brought me back to laughter each time.
I didn’t know we would both develop such a love for antiques, traveling to small cities, that we would go out to enjoy steak dinners together (I was a vegetarian when we married) or that we would become parents and love every minute of it!
I didn’t know that he would help me become a better me. This one is really hard to explain and it sounds slightly conceited. Nonetheless, I have no doubt that I am a better person for marrying him. Most people think I am the grown up in our relationship, but it really is the opposite. I have learned so much about being an adult from Todd. He gives freely, he loves deeply, he worries less, he simplifies issues, he manages finances, and he is exceedingly kind. He has given me so much. More, I am sure, than he will ever realize. I only hope I have done the same for him.
Oh, there is one other thing. I knew he was the one.
Happy 15th anniversary, Todd. Darling I know you’re the one…